Why man should marry second wife 25 years after first — Morayo Afolabi-Brown’s husband

Nigerian lawyer and businessman Olufemi (Femi) Afolabi-Brown, has explained why he believes a man who intends to practise polygamy should wait about 25 years before marrying a second wife.

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Afolabi-Brown, who is married to media personality Morayo Afolabi-Brown, shared his views during an episode of The Brown Couch Podcast, where he argued that a significant age gap between wives could help reduce rivalry and conflict in polygamous homes.

According to him, a man who marries his first wife at 25 should ideally wait until about age 50 before taking a second wife.

He said such a gap would ensure that the children from both marriages belong to different generations, making it easier for them to coexist peacefully.

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“Your first wife ought to be a lot older than your second wife. You can marry your second partner at age 50 if you first marry one at age 25.

“So the first child’s children become like the older brothers, uncles and aunts to the younger ones. They are not of the same generation, so there will never be rivalry between them,” he said.

Afolabi-Brown argued that marrying a second wife only a few years after the first often creates unnecessary tension within the family.

“If you marry your first wife in the first year of your marriage and then marry your second wife in the third year, your home will be the centre of chaos. You cannot escape it,” he added.

He further stated that couples should first build a shared purpose in their marriage before considering polygamy, noting that such alignment often takes years to achieve.

“Before a husband and wife can consolidate in purpose, it may take 10 years.

“Once they identify that purpose and both of them have keyed into it, if the man goes to marry a second wife because of the purpose, the first wife will overlook it,” Afolabi-Brown said.