If you want to stay chaste, don’t get too close to any man

Dear Ma,

Please keep me anonymous. I like your messages on sexual purity and how you are impacting the next generation. I stand for that, and I kept myself till marriage and even in marriage. Permit me to suggest that you also preach character to virgins while building their purity. Joseph and Esther both had character. Jesus is coming for virgins with oil in their lamps, not all the virgins.

I stand to be corrected, marriage needs character to make it work in the long run, just as virgins without oil will not make the flight with the bridegroom. Just like Peter said, to our faith we should add virtue. Thank you for your time.

Mr Fashina

Dear Mr Fashina,

Thanks for your message and contribution. While I must also remind you that many non-virgins/promiscuous people also lack good character, I must not fail to mention that a virgin’s rebuffing of sexual overtures could come with some rudeness when she’s over-pressured or sexually harassed, even verbally. However, I agree with your point and shall preach good character. God bless you, sir.

Good evening, ma’am,

Many thanks for your time. I’ve been following you for a while, and I truly love your teachings about sexual purity. I’m a single mum of one, so I decided to be careful not to get myself into that situation a second time. However, just recently, I met a guy, but I insisted on my decision not to engage in sex with any man until we are married. More so, it’s been four years since I had anything to do with anyone. This guy never gave up and kept disturbing me for sex, which I wanted to seek counsel from you about. But I must confess, just this evening, this guy forced me. I’m really sad right now. I wanted to talk to you because I don’t have friends or anyone I can share things with. I’ve ended the relationship, but he keeps asking for forgiveness. I wish this didn’t happen to me.

Anonymous, 32

Dear Anonymous and other ladies in her shoes,

I’m not happy as well with the above message, and in fact, I’m angry. It is very wrong and criminal to be raped, and to worsen matters, you didn’t report to the police, perhaps because you felt it was needless.

How could you have kept yourself for four good years, endured loneliness, and probably suffered from the pangs of wanting what you had once enjoyed, and eventually gotten used to abstaining from it, only for a heartless brute to decide to disrupt your peace and have his way? Could it be that you’ve been entertaining him in your home and allowing him to enter your bedroom? That was no reason for him to force himself on you.

However, if a lady wants to remain sexually pure, she must avoid being in close proximity with any man because even her body could suddenly betray her. I’m so sorry you had to experience this, but you should have been more careful with this guy. You should also know that most single mothers are seen to be very vulnerable and in need of comfort in one way or the other, which most men out there cash in on. They are, unfortunately, easy and, most times, very cheap prey for predators. I’m so sorry, my dear. You have to gird your loins and shut this guy away. He has done you wrong, and you don’t need him around anymore.

You may also report him to the police if you think you still have some evidence of his DNA on your underwear or something, and perhaps your communication after it happened. I’m sorry, please, my dear.

I pray you are able to get over this trauma, and above all, ask God to settle you in marriage so you won’t remain lonely for life or eventually end up jumping from one bed to another. This is a very serious matter. May God comfort you on every side, increase your greatness, and give you your dream life and man, in Jesus’ name. I await your testimony. Congratulations in advance.

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Are you still engaging in premarital sex? Each act devalues you. Your wonders are waiting to start. God is waiting for you to become a secondary virgin. You are most welcome on board the chastity campaign train, and Girls Club is open for all girls and ladies. Please text your name, age, school or occupation, and state of domicile to 07086620576.

FINAL WORD

Chastity does not belong to the past. It saves you a lot of trouble, preserves your beautiful destiny, and sets you apart from the crowd. You are better off not engaging in premarital and extramarital sex. Stay chaste.