“He was obsessed, possessive” – Tems narrates toxic relationship experience

Popular Nigerian singer Tems has opened up about her past experience in a toxic relationship, revealing how her partner’s behaviour negatively affected her.

Speaking during a candid interview with media personality Angie Martinez, the Essence crooner described the relationship as one where her partner was “obsessive and possessive.”

According to Tems, the experience conflicted with her personal beliefs about love and relationships, as she emphasized that a healthy relationship should be built on partnership rather than control or ownership.

She also noted that toxic relationships can be particularly draining, adding that in many cases, the person exhibiting toxic behaviour may not even be aware of it.

Her words …

“I have experienced love where I thought it was love but it was more like when someone is trying to own you. They think that they own you. And that’s not love.

“Love is not obsession. And it is not possession. I can’t own another human being. Love is when both of you become one person.

“We don’t own each other, we are each other. I feel everyone has experienced toxic love with someone who doesn’t even know that they are toxic.

“They say they love you but they don’t know that they don’t even love you. Because you can’t love someone you feel you own..”